For Those Days When You Don't Feel That Beautiful

Thursday, September 17, 2015

This is me. My eyes squint when I smile, my teeth sometimes look terribly yellow because of all the coffee I drink, and my hair is a mess because I let it do what it wants. And you know what? That's okay, because I've come to learn something about true beauty.

It's a struggle I've had to deal with since the day I was born: Why do I have to look the way I do? Why can't I have a different color hair or a different pair of legs? If there is one thing all teenage girls have to deal with, it's insecurity, and Satan has been targeting women with this since the beginning of time.

When Satan tempted Eve, he targeted her identity, and it hit her hard. Even after God looked at all of creation and called it very good, Eve  was convinced that somehow she wasn't good enough. When the God of the universe calls something very good, He means it. After all, His very character defines goodness. But even after God walked and talked with Adam and Eve daily, showing them just how beautiful of a relationship they could have, Eve fell. And the very reason she fell was insecurity.

So you see, what we teenage girls go through is a story as old as time. It's nothing that evolved because of super models or teen vogue covers. This is something that is implanted in every human heart, especially the female ones.

To really dive into this topic, we have to realize that there are two types of insecurity:

1. Insecurity from the Fall:

If you're a Christian, you have undoubtedly felt the insecurity that comes from the knowledge of sin in your life. When you look at God and look at your own sin, you see that you are sheer opposites, and there is no way that you can ever pay for your sin on your own.

You could call this type of insecurity "healthy"  because this is what brings us to the cross. This is what makes us appreciate Jesus' gift and accept it as our own, and it is present in all people, but some choose to ignore it.

2. Insecurity in the Christian's heart:

Alright, pour yourself a cup of coffee and pull up a chair because this is the focus of the majority of this post.

Girls, when you see magazine covers or celebrities, I know that there is at least some part of you, no matter how small, that wishes you could look like that girl, whether it's Taylor Swift or Blake Lively. Whether you think you're too fat or too skinny, it happens to all of us. I know because I've been there so many times

This is the same insecurity that Satan used to tempt Eve in the garden. It is different from number one because when Eve possessed this insecurity, God had already told her that she was good enough. In fact, He looked at her and called her very good. If you are in Christ, God has already told you that you are enough. Here are a few passages to prove it:

 "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.The old has passed away; behold, the new has come." 2 Corinthians 5:17

  • The passage goes on to say that Christ's righteousness was passed to us. Isn't that a beautiful thing? The fact is, we aren't enough, not by ourselves, but because of Jesus, we are beautiful and worthy.

"The LORD you God is in you midst, a mighty one who will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness: He will quiet you by His love; He will exult over you with loud singing." Zephaniah 3:17

  • This passage isn't a joke; God really does rejoice over us! Because He looks at your heart and sees Jesus' perfect righteousness, He can rejoice over you and exult you with loud singing.

The point is, this insecurity that we Christians (especially girls) get is completely ridiculous, silly even, because look how the God of the universe feels about you!  Here's another encouraging passages from 1 Samuel:

"But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart" (16:17).

To brush up your memory, God says this to Samuel when He is about to appoint David as king of Israel. David had all these brothers, and I imagine some of the older ones were pretty buff and kingly-looking. But you know what? God chose the little shepherd boy (reminder: he probably smelled like sheep, which isn't a good smell)  to be Israel's king because He saw his heart, and that was enough. 

This passage should offer hope to us, because Jesus has cleansed our hearts and made us pure. So if God looks at our hearts and not the outside, He sees Jesus and His beauty as our beauty.

In conclusion, insecure Christian, you are beautiful. 

Next time you look at a magazine cover or see a celebrity on TV and wish to look like them, remember that you have more than your looks; you have your heart that is washed as white as snow, and that is what God is concerned with. Christian, you are worthy and good enough, not because of what you've done, but because of what Jesus has done.

I'd like to end with the lyrics of a song by Blanca called Who I Am:

I am strong
I am good enough

I know people who are bothered by this line, and they should be if it was standing alone, but it's not. Here's the next part:

I belong

After all
‘Cause of what You've done

"'Cause of what You've done." See that? She is giving credit to Jesus for her beauty. She doesn't have to be insecure because Christ's light shine through her.

I know there are some Christians (particularly guys) who think that insecurity is a hoax, a scam, a joke put in place to get attention. On the contrary, it is very real. I know because I struggle with it daily. Each day I have to remember Proverbs 31:30: "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised." Fearing, praising, and loving God is so much more important than what your look like on the outside. Truthfully, I think insecurity is something that each of us will struggle with for a long time, but we must remember what God has told us: We are beautiful, worthy, and loved because Jesus has transformed our hearts and souls.Rest in this truth that will never fade; let Jesus' beauty shine through you! 

P.S. If any of you are struggling with this, I'd encourage you to email me at I'd love to pray with you and encourage you! 


  1. You are indeed good enough, accepted, loved, and cherished by GOD because of Christ's finished work on the cross. You also belong (I know some in your circle of friends!), you are strong, and you are beautiful! Thanks for lifting HIM up while encouraging others. I love your writings, and I love the Reid who writes! :-)

    1. Thank you so much for commenting, Mrs. Hunter! I miss you and your family! Thanks for always encouraging me and pointing back to Christ!


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